My ideal partner would be: someone who has a positive outlook-emotionally available and generally into enjoying what life has to offer - looks are subjective -everyone has attractive qualities..im 41,outgoing and really just want someone to enjoy things with ,i dont want or need anyone to look after me and i dont want to own anyone or tell them what to do, im not bad looking and have a decent job so i wont expect you to pay into the cinema, ive been known to give flowers and hugs and hold hands in public .. i dont have a photo up but will try to get that sorted - im not married or attached and think im some girls knight in shining Armour I like eating out and trying new places , city breaks to Prague and Barcelona or a couple of days in London or Dublin , i go on 2 sun holidays 1 with my son and 1 with friends usually, im not stingy ,i have no skeletons in my closet , not after casual sex or dirty texts, dont mind if you have kids as long as they are happy about you dating- im well educated and can talk to a tramp or a king with equal ease , i smell good and look good in a suit or jeans- im very close to my son and play a significant part in his life.I drink socially don't gamble, tried drugs and wasn't impressed - i have an ordinary decent job and lots of really good friends. Please if you send me a mail be truthful , if your older bigger smaller- occasional smoker doe sent mean 60 a day ---- im great fun and have a young outlook-- ONE last thing i have silver /white hair and green eyes and have busted my ass to get into decent shape ,im told im ok looking but thats subjective - also happy to provide proof of age anytime and my decree absolute from divorce lol - p.s i have nice manners and even become a gentleman on a full moon im sorting a photo but for god sake dont just mail and say wheres your photo because im not interested in shallow people not matter how good looking they are--- "See no evil, hear no evil, date no evil" My ideal date would be: involving laughing and a glass of champagne or just a nice walk then a meal-- you can choose to be honest 1st dates are tough but if we like each other happy days- i reckon this dating caper is supposed to be fun so even if we dont rock eachothers world it might be nice to be buddies